Sexually Super-Charged

You know how when someone just had great sex and they seem to be “glowing” and feeling all wonderful? You know how when a couple are madly in love and they can’t keep their hands off each other, they seem so happy and so energized? Well those wonderful feelings and super-levels of energy aren’t accidents.

You have in your pants the power to create life. Think about that. Your sexuality can create an entirely new life. Think about how much energy that must take, compared to other creative efforts. A painting, a song, and other forms of art are wonderful, but they don’t compare to the complexity and beauty of a living breathing human being. The power of sexuality to create isn’t restricted to procreation, it also influences artistic endeavors, energy levels, relationships, and more.

Think of the sex drive, the libido, as an engine. Think of the fuel that runs this engine as great sex full of love and emotional value, free from embarrassment and guilt. The libido engine can “hook up” to other activities besides sex, and super-charge them. Artistic endeavors, physical work, mental concentration, emotional healing, you name it. I’m not saying sexuality is the most important thing, but it is important. Enjoying a healthy sex life will work wonders to enjoy everything else in life.

Be capable of hot wild sex 24/7, but at the same time be actively creating and consciously living your life, 24/7. The libido should be “turned on” at all times, but that does not mean sex at all times, it means creating and living at all times, being active and engaged with something in your life, to change, grow, Evolve. I’m not suggesting a sex marathon every day, I’m suggesting you are capable of a sex marathon every day.

There’s a saying related to sex: “The more you get the more you want.” This is true, to an extent. Let’s say you haven’t had sex for awhile because you’ve gone cold turkey, the sexual “charge” has built up, and now you just gotta get some. But all too often people have sex and then lose that “charge,” until they build back up by going cold turkey again. But there are ways to enjoy amazing sex on a healthy daily basis without losing that “charge.” Sexual pleasure should never sap your energy, it should super-charge your energy.

There’s much to discuss about this, but learning how to have sex without “Explosive” Orgasms, while having plenty of “Imposive” Orgasms, is a key factor. Do all you can to enjoy sex without Explosive orgasms. It will leave you horny, and require your willpower, yes. But it will also leave you super-charged. More about this below.

A number of factors go into what I imply by the words “great sex.” It’s much more complex than just cumming really hard. Orgasm is part of sex, not sex=orgasm. There are a number of physical and psychological factors to consider. I’ll spare you the full lecture about psychological associations (for now), but the mind “attaches” together related thoughts, ideas, concepts, desires, etc. This happens in the unconscious mind, beyond your immediate everyday awareness. I say the word “Lake” and your mind automatically moves toward water, swimming, boats, and perhaps that one lake where you once had great sex, or perhaps the name of the lake where a loved one drowned. The mind makes “folders” and “sub-folders,” categorizing our thoughts and feelings. There is nothing wrong with this system per say, but we must be aware of it so we can consciously “check” our associations for anything… well, fucking stupid.

I could go off on a quite a rant here, but here’s just 3 examples of really bad mind filing: Stupidity is associated with skin color. Right and wrong are associated with opinion and belief. Morality is associated with sexual orientation.

Deep down in the unconscious, sex and life itself are powerfully associated. In order for life to happen, sex is required. Without sexual desires, life would not exist. Within your unconscious programming, your very existence is directly anchored to sexuality.

Now if you understand how association works, when someone feels guilty about their sexual pleasures, they feel guilty about their very existence. When someone feels embarrassed about their libido, they feel embarrassed about their very life. When someone denies their own sexual desires (controlling or redirecting isn’t denying), they are denying their humanity. Obviously, true humanity has plenty more associations beyond sex, but try and tell yourself sex isn’t one of them.

Having sex with guilt, embarrassment, or denial, will decrease your energy levels and make you feel depressed. Sex should be a celebration, not an obligation. Energy levels should be increased after sex, not diminished.

Here’s some food for thought: What are your general feelings toward sex, beautiful or ugly? How do you feel about sexual fluids, delicious or gross? How do you feel about the heartaches associated with ex sexual partners, truly healed or still depressed/angry? When you hear the word “masturbation” what feelings show up, playful fun or that’s a dirty word? Do discussions about sexual fantasies make you recoil in fear of embarrassment, or smile at those naughty thoughts? Can you honestly say to yourself “I love sexual pleasure, it’s wonderful,” or do you feel guilty or embarrassed about it? All of this and more are related to what I imply by “great sex.”

There is all the difference in the world between XXX rated hardcore fucking in the presence of love, versus XXX rated hardcore fucking without any emotional value. One is a bullet-hole in the gas tank of our life force, the other is super-charged nitro-fuel. Having sex only to get yourself off will drain you of energy. Combine sexual pleasures with emotional pleasures, even if the emotional pleasure is simply just appreciation for an adult entertainer.

Seek to please your partner(s), or perhaps practice pleasing a potential partner, whenever you enjoy sex. This doesn’t mean you can’t get what you like, but give it while you get it. I like to call this “mirrored pleasures.” It’s the best kind of pleasure! There is nothing wrong with hot ‘n messy XXX rated sex, it’s the story around that sex where the right and wrong come in.

Get more than just your pleasure going, get your appreciative and loving feelings going as well. It’s another subject altogether, but your thoughts and feelings literally broadcast out to the universe, and are picked up by others, especially if you’re directing a “broadcast” at them. During self-pleasure have wonderful thoughts about your imagined partner(s), and send out loving and appreciate feelings to them. Even if you don’t believe your thoughts and feelings are being broadcast, it will help to make you feel better. (I want to mention the importance of imagination while masturbating, though I cover that topic in: “Porn Versus Addiction”.)

So, how does one have sex yet not feel drained afterward? Here’s the “checklist.”

-Implosive orgasms. There is a difference between “Explosive” orgasms and “Implosive” orgasms. Explosive orgasms take a lot of energy. These are the “normal” orgasms that result in ejaculations for men, and the ones that wear woman out, usually from clitoral stimulation. Explosive projects energy outwards. Implosive pulls energy into your body. Sex is about pleasure—not cumming asap. Learn how to enjoy sex without explosive orgasms.

A key to having implosive orgasms is relaxation. Both mentally and physically. Kegels, the muscles that hold back your pee and poo, need to relax during sex, as they contract and spasm during explosive orgasm. A great exercise to do for helping you to physically relax, is reverse kegels—the muscles that push out your pee and poo. I cover kegels in the next essay.

Enjoy every touch, every feeling, every moment. Great sex is like a song, it starts and builds, flows up and down, this way and that, before finally cumming to the end, and enjoying the snuggled silence.

-Control your desire to explosive orgasm. That doesn’t mean never let loose and enjoy explosive orgasm, it means never go oops. Cum when you decide to, make it a “big deal.” Build it up over time, and make your explosive orgasms into super-novas of body-rocking mind-blowing screaming-good explosions of ecstasy (btw sex-magic is concentrating on your intended creations with thought and feeling during explosive orgasm). There is nothing like cumming hard and keeping it going. When a man is fucking me, and cums, but he doesn’t slow down or stop, he just keeps giving it to me… I go crazy. I just love that. Never regret going over the edge.

If you want to explosive orgasm (ejaculate), here are a few tips: Make sure you enjoy sex with intercourse for at least half an hour before cumming; Make sure you consciously decide to ejaculate; And make sure you’ve had plenty of implosive orgasms, 3+, before cumming. Also, letting a few days/weeks go by between explosive orgasms will help keep your super-charged with energy. If you can explosive orgasm and stay horny, hard, and in need for more, you’re doing it right. (This is possible guys! Re-program your body, day by day, experience by experience, and take care of yourself.)

-Enjoy sex often. And if you can, tease your body at multiple times throughout the day. This will help to keep your hormones flowing, and it will make finally going all the way all the more enjoyable. There is nothing like William teasing me throughout the entire day, threatening to just shove his cock in me, and then finally giving it to me in the evening. Teasing makes the pleasing better!

“Enjoy sex often” doesn’t mean marathon fucks 12 hours a day, every day. Normally, I enjoy sex every morning and every evening for about 45 minutes each, or 1 1/2 hours a day, with the mornings devoted to going all-the-way (best time for sex btw), a little tease in the afternoon (nothing like naked/lingerie lunches), and the evenings are tease-fests with oral and non-intercourse pleasure (sometimes I just need intercourse again though!).

Of course, the time spent and specific sexual activities wildly vary depending on spontaneity, duties, and what have you. Each person is different on how much is too much, but as long as the sex doesn’t get in the way of your responsibilities and moral obligations… fucking enjoy it!

-Remove all negative feelings, such as guilt, embarrassment, and heartache. Pleasual without any problems. Accept your sexual needs, direct them to delightful outcomes, and just enjoy it. Clear your psychology of all negative feelings about sex. Sex is wonderful damn it! Express instead of repress. It’s the story around the sexual pleasure where right and wrong come into play. The sexual pleasure itself is wonderful. Desire more than just sexual pleasure, desire the proper set and setting—the right story—around your sexual experiences.

-Be damn good at pleasing your partner(s), or at least be damn good at pleasing your imagined partner(s). Knowing your sex drive is pleasing someone you love will vastly help to keep your sex drive super-charged. It creates another reason, deep down in your mental programming, in your core motivations, to get it on. Sex should be a team effort!

-Make sex spontaneous and fun! Sex isn’t a 10-step program executed at exactly 9:00 pm sharp until 9:30 pm Monday through Friday. Of course setting aside some time in a busy schedule is understandable, but burning passions don’t require schedules. In fact, they abhor them.

The two types of time is another subject unto itself, what I call “Clock-time” and “Spirit-time,” but to put it quick ‘n simple: Stop thinking of life in terms of minutes and start exploring life in terms of moments! When you throw the man-made minutes of madness away, you will discover the Nature-made moments of spontaneous love.

-Most of all, enjoy sex in the presence of love. “Love” doesn’t ONLY mean your married, making babies, and will spend all of eternity together. It means honesty, respect, and morality. It means being upfront about what you’re really after, how you actually feel, and where you hope the relationship will go.

If you’re simply looking for friendship that includes hot sex, say so. And if the relationship should go back to friendship without any sex, freaking say so. And if the friendship with sex goes into a serious relationship, freaking say so. And if you just wanna fuck for a few months, it could end at any time, freaking say so. Define the nature of your sexual relationships, clearly and immediately, or problems are already starting to arise.

Let’s explore how men can have Implosive orgasms, in the next essay.