Keeping Her Satisfied

(Keep in mind this article is posted “as is.” I’ll be adding much more over time.)

Make sex a full-body experience for her, from head to toe. Ask, explore, and discover what your unique woman wants. Everyone has their little quirks, and specific desires, the things that will bring them the most pleasure. Some women actually don’t enjoy intercourse that much, and that’s fine. Guys, women want more than crazy-deep pussy pounding—which isn’t to say that’s not something women want! But go beyond that, make sex about pleasure in all its forms, not just genital. Be honest, be open, and enjoy your desires.

Pleasure isn’t just about sex, it can be about all forms of pleasure. Food, laughter, relationships, Nature, ease of living, anything. Combine sexual pleasure with other forms of pleasure. There is nothing wrong with seeking to maximize your level of ecstasy in life. We seek to maximize our survival to keep life going, so why not also maximize our enjoyment of life?

There is nothing wrong with “exchanging pleasures,” meaning you do something for me and I’ll do something for you. We must be willing to both give pleasure, and receive it. Sometimes, William will kiss and caress me, go down on me, make me cum, and then end the experience, just to say: “I love to please you.” And sometimes, I will do the same back for him. Most of the time, we go back and forth, almost as if we are challenging each other to see who can pleasure who the most. Let your gal know what you really want, and make sure you know what she really wants. Communication is the best lubrication.

Unlike some Super-Humans, not everyone is a mind-reader and can just magically know what their partner really desires. Sometimes, women want over-to-top romance, like flowers leading into the candle-lit bathroom. Sometimes, women want to just be dominated and fucking pounded like an animal. Sometimes, women want slow and caressing, soft and passionate lovemaking that builds and builds with every sweet stroke. Sometimes, women want to be left alone and work out what they need to on their own. We all need our space from time to time. So don’t make your desires a freaking mystery, make them known and damn fun!

And how can you tell your partner what you want, when you yourself don’t even know what you want? The two most powerful words are: Know Thyself.

(The full version of this essay will eventually cover everything possible to keep her satisfied, like different tips and tricks for stimulation. Nipples can be kissed, suckled, licked, massaged with palms, twisted with thumb/forefinger, flicked hard, pulled, rapidly rubbed back and forth with the four fingers, twirl-tongued, both breasts squeezed together so both nipples can be sucked on at once, there are just so many delightful options! But for now, the rest of this essay will cover kegels.)

Kegel’s are essentially the same for woman as they are for men. They will vastly help with all things sexual, specifically keeping her vagina tight and giving her more intense satisfying orgasms (both regular and reverse). And of course, they also help with blatter control.

Resistance training is also possible with kegels. Like all muscles, it will respond to weight/resistance. Men can put towels or attach small weights around their erect penis, and woman can use a vaginal barbell. No joke! I use mine all the time, and I love it.

One of my favorite sex games to play with Willaim every morning is “Kegel War.” While he’s inside me, we both hold our kegel muscles as hard as we can until someone gives. It’s tons of fun, great for the kegels, and yes, I usually win!

There is a stereotype that says men are mostly interested in just sex, and women are mostly interested in just emotional bonding. While there is some genetic truth to this, it’s not the only thing going on with human sexuality. There are men who want to emotionally bond, and there are women who love sex. Some guys can’t have sex without emotional bonding, and some women want just sex without any emotions. Everyone is different, and a person’s sexuality should be looked at and understood as THAT person’s sexuality.

Bringing as much pleasure as you can to your partner means you need to know YOUR partner, that individual person. While other sources can be helpful, they pale in comparison. Talk to your partner, and flow with both of your desires. Don’t copy what some “expert” generalizes, or some “professional” has to say. You are the expert, you are the professional. Happiness, love, and amazing sex are interwoven with spontaneity.

And spontaneity doesn’t have a 10-step program to satisfaction. Get caught in the moment like you would with beautiful music, or a captivating movie, or a perfect quiet moment in Nature. Sex isn’t about obligation, routine, or boredom. It’s about celebration, spontaneity, and fun!

Let’s explore the loaded word “love” in the next essay.