Pleasure Without Problems

You’ve heard me say this all throughout GoddessFyre.com, and you’ll hear me say again and again. But actually experiencing pleasure without any problems has requirements. The things worth a damn in life don’t just fall into your lap without any Conscious effort on your part. It doesn’t work like that. Qualities like respect, integrity, honesty, empathy, morality and more, are requirements that go hand in hand with problem-free pleasure. I stand for the direction of sexual desires, not the denial of them.

Fairy Tales tell of true love and perfect little happy endings. But you don’t honestly expect a Fairy Tale can come true without any conscious effort, do you? A beautiful real life tale must be told by everyone involved in the story, day to day, experience to experience, moment to moment. Pleasure without problems isn’t going to automatically happen, it must consciously happen. We are designed for pleasure, yes. But we are also designed for much more.

The Creator gifted us with sexuality. For procreation of course, but for much more as well. The pleasure of sex is a gift unto itself, a way of being alive unlike any other. Sex is meant to be enjoyed and explored. Not continuously suppressed until the libido eventually explodes out in some unspeakable act. Sex is a gift, and so are the loving connections that sex brings between people. Which includes ‘loves’ of many different kinds.

Love is a word with far more definitions than just: “one-and-only eternal marriage.” From the love of husband and wife, to the love of a mistress or a master, to the love between casual friend with benefits, to all the loves that don’t involve anything erotic. And even the healthy appreciative love of an erotic entertainer. They can all be classified under the heading of the word love, despite how different those loves are. There is a reason the Greeks had three different words for love! Love is a word many people are terrified to use because it can be so confusing and strong at the same time, and so the word ‘like’ is often used. However, ‘like’ is still a word that means the same energy as love. It’s still caring for another, no matter the degree or intensity. Put love in a clear, healthy, and authentic context, and use the word. It’s okay.

The reasons for sex feeling so damn good are not just so we will be pushed into procreating, they are reasons unto themselves. Pleasure has purpose. Procreation is beautiful, don’t hear me wrong, creating and raising a child is a sacred thing. But there is more to sex. And if we are designed to enjoy our existence, if pleasure has purpose built into itself, if sex is in fact a gift from the Creator, than why not fully enjoy it? And in so doing, honor this wonderful Creation? Of course, I can’t stress enough to enjoy sex in ways that are filled with Virtue and Love, that respect Free Will, that will cause pleasures only. I stand for pleasure without problems. It’s that simple.

People need to get their priorities in order. While pleasure is wonderful, it’s not anywhere near as important as other things in life. What’s higher on a person’s priority list: Respect for others choices, or Ego-driven pleasure for me-me-me? Faithfulness to the agreed upon nature of relationships, or genital entertainment? A personal sense of virtue (what I also call organic morality, which means true heart that’s inherent to humans at birth, not a social idea injected while growing up), or a high reputation rating in society? Being an honorable and real man, or getting into her pants at any cost? Heart, or profits?

A single paragraph can’t detail everything there is to talk about on this subject, but I can at least mention it. Pleasure without problems requires people to KNOW objective right from wrong. Not an opinion on what is right. Not a personal view something is wrong. No, objective, absolute, inherent to creation, there in the same way the Sun above and the Earth below are there, right and wrong. It’s really quite simple: Do no harm. If people would set their freaking Ego’s aside and make choices based on doing no harm, we would be living in a paradise.

Why do you think Ember Island is a paradise? The beautiful busty ladies and the gorgeous hung guys that live there? The breath-taking landscapes and abundant Nature? Sure, those things certainly help, but they don’t make it a paradise. It’s the loving personalities, the universal respect, and the authentic MORALITY that the people on Ember Island have, practice, and defend, that makes Ember Island a paradise. Because of the high level of morality there is a high level of freedom.

(Morality and freedom are directly proportional to each other. People who are fighting for “freedom” need to understand they need to be fighting for morality—directly. And that involves telling immoral people exactly what they don’t want to hear.)

Different people are looking for different things when it comes to love, sex, and relationships. And so long as it’s pleasure without problems, they have a right to that relationship. There are other relationship options besides the traditional one-and-only for all of time. Yes, of course sex is powerfully connected to procreation and family. But it’s also powerfully connected to enjoyment of life, bonding between people, and celebration of our humanity. There is nothing wrong with having great, hot, satisfying and wild sex that doesn’t result in pregnancy. There is nothing wrong with thoroughly enjoying yourself!

Given the state of the world, and the average human mind that is stuck in the Ego, it can be very difficult to find partners where open sexual relations can be freely explored and enjoyed without any problems. For most, the very thought of their partner just kissing another immediately floods them with feelings like envy, betrayal, and anger. And that’s fine, everyone has the right to engage whatever type of relationship they wish.

But if two people agree to let each other sexually explore, according to whatever rules they agree upon, than it’s fine. My dearest William can kiss, grope, and have oral sex with others (as can I), and I have no problem with it. Because I know he’s coming home to me, because I know our relationship is not in any sort of danger, because it only makes him all the more horny for me. Because I trust him. Because he’s proven himself to me, over and over again. If I didn’t trust him, we won’t know each other. We can go “all the way” with others, but everyone needs to meet in person and be open and honest about it. Those are our rules. What are yours?

I am not encouraging anyone into any particular sexual lifestyle or relationship. Whatever the individual wishes to engage in, whatever will bring them happiness, is what they should engage in, as long it honors Free Will of course. Just because I have a wild sex life with multiple partners, doesn’t mean I’m advocating everyone in the world have that very same sex life. You find what sex life will work for you. As long it’s pleasure without problems, it’s fine. Practice safe sex, of course. But also practice smart sex. That’s even more important.

Talk about the nature of your relationship BEFORE you have sex. Understand that true love is something internal, within you, within your heart, that you then share with others without a price tag attached. True love is connection, not dependency. If you can’t connect with someone in a problem-free way, don’t. There is nothing wrong with walking away and finding YOUR happiness. You sacrifice your true Self and you’ll end up sacrificing everything.

Don’t go looking for the love outside yourself when that love is something you CAN only find within yourself, or else you are gonna get hurt again and again. BE happy with yourself, and then SHARE that happiness with others. When you depend on another for your happiness, you are in a vampiric state of mind. When you share your happiness with another, you are in a loving state of mind. True love is NOT a fucking tug-of-war game—it’s the natural state of healthy and happy humanity that freely flows like a river. Chaos is injected. Peace is grown.

Of course there is nothing wrong with desiring a real-life physically attractive partner to bond and celebrate sexuality with, but if you rely on that partner for your happiness, things are going to turn ugly. Know Thyself, Know what you desire, and Know the moral ways to get what you want.

There is a difference between desire and thirst. Desire is: “I would really like to have it, but if I can’t get it in moral and honorable ways, that’s okay. I’ll move on.” While thirst is: “I will have it, no matter what it takes, even if I have to dishonor myself and commit immoral behavior. I will never move on until I get it.”

Having a sexual desire for your best friend’s beautiful wife upon seeing her for the first time isn’t a horrible thing. So long as that desire is kept in check, and morality is kept more important. However, developing a thirst for your best friend’s wife will end up causing something horrible to happen. Desire is NOT the cause of suffering—Thirst is.

Depending on someone for your own happiness is completely different from sharing your happiness with them. If someone brings you joy, don’t demand more, bring them joy too. Have some fucking TRUST and FAITH in your partner(s), because truly loving-relationships have no room for fear. Healthy relationships have absolutely no worries about faithfulness. True love is when both hold a mirror to each other, and both see the reflections into infinity.

You want pleasure without problems? Be honest. Be moral. Be happy. It’s that simple.

Let’s explore how to get sexually super-charged in the next essay.